Talking about an experience of sexual misconduct is often the most effective way of processing your feelings, exploring belief structures, and gaining understanding about your own and others’ responses and reactions. Putting all this into words with another person is fundamental to most people’s healing. When strong emotions, self-doubts, and critical thoughts are kept inside, survivors tend to get stuck in an unrelenting feedback loop of self-doubt and even self-blame. These are typical coping mechanisms—they help preserve a sense of control—but holding yourself responsible is ultimately self-destructive. By bringing this into conversation, many survivors begin to place responsibility where it belongs, with the perpetrator.

Counseling for sexual misconduct is often very pragmatic. We work on strategies for self-care, including finding ways to access support within your day-to-day life. We spend time figuring out how and whether to tell loved ones about what happened.  If you have decided to go ahead with a disciplinary or criminal case, we address the emotions arising from that process. Having been sexually victimized can make ordinary life difficult. Counseling can give you the space and support to find ways to cope with those difficulties.

SHARE can provide immediate crisis counseling on our hotline, as well as ongoing counseling by appointment.